How to stop taking everything so personally

I don’t know about you, but learning to stop taking things so personally is something I had to learn the hard way! Not only was it impacting my mental health, but taking everything anyone said to heart was really ruining my creativity and happiness! Here are a few ways that I learned to chill out!

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Know What You’re Worth

I think we all spent years thinking that we weren’t good enough for something right? Maybe you weren’t cool enough to sit at some table in middle school, or maybe you just couldn’t make it on MySpace! We’ve all been there. Let me just tell you that you were cool enough all along.

Someone has probably said something to you in the past that you can’t forget. When we learn to stop taking things personally, we can overcome all of that self doubt. By knowing that you are just as amazing as everyone else, you’ll be shocked by the things you can overcome.

This is something we really see on platforms such as Instagram. It is so easy to think that someone’s life is better than ours. You don’t have to be like someone else, you’re just fine the way you are!

Learn That Everyone Is Different

The best thing about the world is that we are all different. Not everyone thinks the same, and that seriously is what makes the world go round. With that being said, just because someone says something to try that you don’t agree it doesn’t mean it is an insult to you.

When you stop taking things personally not only is it going to improve the relationship you have with others, but it also is going to help your own mental health. What you do in your life is great, but you can’t always expect others to do the same.

At the end of the day, whatever someone thinks of you is really not your concern anyway. Nor is it their right to make you feel like anything less than great. You can also think of this as keeping your own internal power. If you have the power in a situation, then no one can change that for you.

You’re allowed to feel things

As someone who has struggled with anxiety and depression from a very early age, I know that sometimes you just cannot help it. There are some days where I feel like I can take over the world, and there are some days where my dog can offend me by not letting me pet him.

Days like this are really the days that you need to learn to stop taking things so personally. A bad day does not equal a bad life, and I think that a lot of us tend to forget that. Each time you wake up it is like hitting the reset button. Take the time you need to feel your own emotions, and eventually you can learn to control those!

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22 Comments

    • ashleestuart
      Author
      October 28, 2019 / 1:11 pm

      Same here girl! Hopefully one day I can just eliminate it!

  1. October 28, 2019 / 1:23 pm

    This is such a good reminder. It’s hard to move past things people have said, even unintentionally, that have shaken our self confidence. Truly such a process to know our worth and hold that tightly!

    Kathryn • simplykk.com

    • ashleestuart
      Author
      October 30, 2019 / 2:54 pm

      For real! A lot of what I take personally aren’t even meant to be negative in anyway!

  2. October 28, 2019 / 4:59 pm

    Such an important post – I’m trying to do the same thing. Easier said than done at times! One thing that has helped me a lot are personality tests so I understand how I feel and how to proactively work with it! x Shannon • www.essellesse.com

    • ashleestuart
      Author
      October 30, 2019 / 2:50 pm

      Thanks Shannon! I love taking tests like that too! It has really helped me learn to deal with myself as well as how I deal with others!

  3. October 28, 2019 / 5:45 pm

    Thank you for this post! I can totally relate, but your tips for stopping this are amazing. <3

    • ashleestuart
      Author
      October 30, 2019 / 2:50 pm

      Thanks so much! It definitely happens to all of us, maybe one day we can all stop it at once!

    • ashleestuart
      Author
      October 30, 2019 / 2:48 pm

      It happens to me from time to time as well!

  4. October 29, 2019 / 1:05 am

    This is very uplifting! Realising these things is a sign of growing up and being wise. I like that you mention Instagram too, not comparing ourselves with what we see in there is a clever decision.

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    • ashleestuart
      Author
      October 30, 2019 / 2:46 pm

      100%! It really is a sign of growing up, so well put!

    • ashleestuart
      Author
      October 30, 2019 / 2:44 pm

      Thank you so much Merel!

    • ashleestuart
      Author
      October 30, 2019 / 2:43 pm

      Absolutely, a lot of people need that lesson right now!

    • ashleestuart
      Author
      November 1, 2019 / 1:49 pm

      Oh for sure! It’s hard not to do it sometimes.

  5. October 30, 2019 / 10:47 am

    This is such a great read dear. I couldn’t agree more, especially with the 2nd point.

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

    • ashleestuart
      Author
      November 1, 2019 / 1:53 pm

      Thanks so much girl!

    • ashleestuart
      Author
      November 1, 2019 / 1:36 pm

      Thanks so much!

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