As much as we try to avoid it, negativity is a part of life. We encounter it every day, even if we are in a pretty good mood! Over the years, I’ve had my highs and lows, but have managed to find a few ways to not only deal with negativity but also ways that eliminate it! Since we are at the beginning of a fresh year, why not share my tips! Apply one or all of these to your daily life, and see if you notice a change in how you live each day.
Focus on the goal, not the journey
If you made any resolutions for the new year, then you’re halfway there! Personally, I make goals instead of resolutions. I find goals to be more attainable, and something that I can measure. A lot of times we get caught up in obstacles that we encounter on the journey. If you haven’t already, you should write down what you want to accomplish. If you write it down, it makes it seem more real, right? You can also have an accountability group that can help keep you on track! You might be wondering how this actually relates to negativity, right? There is a lot of negativity in life that can actually keep us from our goals. By staying focused, you’ll have less downtime. Less downtime means fewer distractions, less free time.
You’ve got to take responsibility
Taking responsibility is one of the most difficult parts of life. If we’re making great decisions, we will be the first to admit it right? What about when you’re wrong. Do you admit that? Sometimes we are the source of negativity, and we could be projecting that into various areas of our lives. I’ve totally been guilty of that in the past, and I got called out on it. Ever since then I have been able to identify when I need to check myself. Even if it is not you personally, it could be something that you are doing that attracts negativity into your life. The best thing to do is basically take a personal inventory of your daily actions. From there, you can narrow down where the negativity is living.
Are you taking care of yourself?
A lot of my negativity comes from stress. Typically when I’m stressed out I’m already feeling pretty terrible, and those thoughts will get you while you’re down! This leads me to my next point. Make sure that you are taking care of yourself! This could be as simple as drinking more water through the day or getting professional help. I’ll be the first to admit that a lot of the negativity in my life was coming from mental illness, and as soon as I sought professional help, I have had a serious decrease in those feelings and thoughts.
Some great ways to take care of yourself are by making sure that you’re getting enough rest. This will also help with your mental clarity as well. Make time for a little self-care each day. Everyone has a few minutes that they can spare each day. Take a nice bubble bath, use a face mask, or just read a few pages of a book that you love. That little attention to yourself is needed!
Try and control your thoughts
I’m not talking some X-Men stuff here but just become more in tune with yourself. Something that I have done forever is to write. I’ve kept journals since I was in middle school, and they are a great way of dealing with negative feelings that I might be having. It also is amazing for viewing your own personal progress. It’s nice to see how much I have grown over the years. If you’re not into writing, then you should totally consider meditation. I began meditating around the 10th grade after we did a meditation in an Eastern Religions class that I took. Meditation is a part of my everyday life, and I don’t think I could do without it. It calms my mind and helps me reduce stress every single day. There are some great apps that will help you meditate with ease. Here is one of my favorite apps that you can get from the App Store.
Take a look at who you’re around
We’ve all been in this situation, right? Someone that we might spend tons of time with may not be the most positive person. That could even be reflecting back on you! If you find yourself in one of these situations, then either talk to that person, or you can just move on. There is absolutely no reason to stick around with a negative individual, and you don’t have to. Your life is your choice! We all know about the “mean girl vibe”, and we all have horror stories! Being around the wrong group of friends, or even an individual can increase the negativity in your life.
Sadly, there are some individuals that we cannot run away from, such as family. In these situations, you really need to just sit down and have a chat. I had a group of friends that basically was just made up of drinking buddies. If I ever had an emergency or just needed help, I couldn’t count on any of that group to be a true friend. It’s been over two years since I’ve had contact with any of them, and my life has never been so positive.